I’m always trying to catch myself judging other people on their life decisions. I am a huge believer in the right to your own life decisions and so long as those decisions do not seriously hurt others, people should be left to them. We all have to live with our own decisions. We earn the right to them with our struggles.
But that’s not how most people feel. For whatever reason, people tend to walk around with their gavel passing judgment on how the people around them choose to live their life. People take that whole “I have the right my opinion” thing a run with it. True you have a right to your opinion, you can think whatever you want, but you do not have the right to confront people with it.
We all have our things. Issues, weaknesses, soft spots, whatever you wanna call them, we have them. We all make mistakes. The most intelligent person does dumb stuff. It does not excuse the behavior of some people, but it doesn’t give you the right to condemn people either. If you don’t like the way someone is living their life, don’t get involved in it. You don’t have any right to constantly berate someone about the things that they do. None of us are done making mistakes.
The one exception I do tend to make with this is when people make their business other people’s business. If you put yourself out there, you’re inviting judgment. You can’t alternate between being in love and saying how lousy your boyfriend is and expect people not to think you’re ridiculous. Social media has blurred the lines of privacy for some people. People take that platform and audience and seem to think they owe them so much of their life.
Not so. I rarely get personal on social media. When I do it’s usually about thoughts or feelings, never actions. I don’t put anything out there that I don’t want someone to comment on. I don’t also apply that to jokes or however you may represent yourself though. People should never hit your line about some picture you put on instagram saying it’s inappropriate. I especially can’t stand when you make a status on facebook and some family member wants to bring out the prayer cloth and make it more serious than it needs to be. All and all I just think people need to spend more time getting their own stuff together and less worrying about everybody else.
I think it bothers me most because I know the vast majority of the time it’s not about being helpful or truly concerned. People just tend to be nosy and self-righteous. A lot of the time people just look down on what you’re doing to make themselves feel better. “Oh I may not be perfect, but I know better than that.” Child, please!
Living is hard. We’re all struggling with it. Nobody knows what the hell they are doing. We’re all just trying to find our joy and do something worthwhile with our lives. We don’t always make the best decisions, life is trial and error. There is no right or wrong way to do this. It’s whatever feels right to you. Simply because you don’t understand where someone is coming from doesn’t mean that they’re wrong. And even if they are, you don’t get to judge them. It doesn’t take much to go from judge to defendant. You make your excuses for yourself and then turn around and make other people feel bad for what they’re doing. Just live your life. It’s a full time job; I don’t even see how you have so much extra time to consider other people’s life. Live your life and I’ll live mine. That’s real ish.