With the holiday coming up most of us will be gathering with our families. For some people this is a great opportunity to get together, catch up, and enjoy. For others this is a challenge. Here are some steps to get your mind right:
1. If you don’t get together with your family that often, just remember it’s just a few hours out of one day, so don’t hype it up too much
2. Have a drink before you go if it’s like that. Not too much, just enough to make them easier to deal with. If you have to get drunk, just stay home. You can also meditate, take some deep breath, whatever will calm you and get you in a good place.
3. You don’t have to get together with your family if you really don’t want to. You can’t pick your family. You don’t have to deal with them if they’re too much. Just get with your chosen family, your friends.
4. Don’t take their judgment seriously or feel like you have to tell them what you think they want to hear. It is your life. They can feel how they want to feel about it, but it’s ultimately yours. If their “constructive criticism” becomes too much, just change the subject.
5. It is a holiday. It’s supposed to be a festive time. Don’t start or feed into drama. Don’t be messy. If you’re gonna get together to celebrate, then celebrate. Don’t turn it into an opportunity to act up.
6. If you can’t cook, DON’T!! Although, I will be laughing heartily at the struggle plates, I don’t encourage you to create them. Know your strengths. If cooking isn’t one of them, leave it to the pros
7. Appreciate the time you have with your older relatives. Not to be morbid, but you don’t know when they’ll go. It’s important to have good memories with them and let them know that you love them.
Those are my tips to get through. I had one Thanksgiving dinner on Sunday and I had a really good time. Got to hang out, eat some good food, have a drink, and laugh with the fam. I’m also looking forward to the Game Night/Sleepover/Thanksgiving at my Aunt’s house. It sounds like fun.
Others of you aren’t as fortunate though. I’m not trying to rub it in. I’m just saying appreciate what you have and make the best of it. If you’re worried, follow my tips. And for those who don’t have a biological family to celebrate with I hope you have chosen family to go to. Whatever you’re doing enjoy. Happy Holidays everybody!